Tuesday, January 3, 2023

Do You Remember . . .

This post will no doubt date me, and might not ring a bell for those of you who are a generation (or so) younger than me.  But it may bring back a couple of memories to some of you who grew up around the same time I did.
 
Do you remember:
 
~ Home perms.  Eee-gods!  The torture we girls subjected ourselves to in the hopes of attaining beauty and the latest style of hair-do.  Seems the awful fumes and tight curlers of the process frequently produced a lot of frizz and more than a few tears.  And possibly a haircut in seriously bad cases.
 
~ Movies in actual theaters.  In the medium sized town I grew up in, we had four movie theaters.  One of them was definitely the classiest and quite plush.  That's where we went on dates.  Going to a movie in a theater was where most of our "real" dates occurred during my high school years.  We always dressed up.  No sweat pants and t-shirts as is the garb while watching a DVD on the couch at home these days.
 
~ 45 rpm records.  One song on each side.  I had my own small record player and a collection of the new releases and old favorites which I played over and over and over.  Much to my father's great consternation. 
 
~ After dinner phone calls with best girlfriends and sometimes the latest boyfriend crush.  No computers or other technological devices of today with which to communicate.  I got into a lot of trouble with my father because of my hour-long periods on the family phone.  One phone in the house, no such thing as a phone in one's bedroom where privacy could be insured.
 
~ Big, plump, red lips made of paraffin at Halloween time.  The lips looked exactly like those now displayed by celebrities.  After Halloween, we always ended up chewing the lips until all the "flavor" was gone.  Yuck.
 
~ Skate keys that tightened your roller skates to your shoes.  The heel of your shoe fit into a metal bracket of sorts in the back of the skates and the front part was held onto your toe area by a clamp on each side.  The clamps had to be tightened by a skate key to keep the four-wheeled skates tightly secured.  We frequently had to share keys because someone had lost theirs.
 
~ Pen pals.  Again, before means of communicating with all the gadgets we have today, many hand-written letters would be mailed back and forth to friends who had moved away, relatives living far from you or occasionally someone living in another country that you had "met" through a geography lesson in school.
 
~ Roller rinks.  If we could coerce a parent to transport us to and from a roller rink, we could rent the boot type skates there and spend an afternoon going around and around on the wooden floor of the big indoor rink.  In junior high school this was often our way of getting together with the opposite sex.  A group of us girls would plan a trip to the rink and, lo and behold, a group of boys our age from school would turn up there, too.
 
~ Neighborhood grocery stores.  There was a small, family-owned grocery store within easy walking distance in nearly every neighborhood.  Once or twice a week, the mother in the home would walk a couple of blocks, or often less, to the neighborhood store to do her food shopping.  If only a couple of items were needed between her regular trips, a child might be given a list with some money, told to go to Mr. Neighborhood Grocer, hand him the list and money, then return home with the purchases and change.
 
Do you have any memories similar to mine (that have now been relegated to the age of the dinosaurs) from your childhood?  Please feel free to share! 

33 comments:

Brenda said...

You just wrote about my growing up years…thank you.

Mama Pea said...

Brenda - :o) :o) :o) I feel times have changed A LOT from our growing up years, and I can't help but wonder what kind of memories kids 50-60 years from now will now have of their childhoods. Thank you for your sweet comment.

gz said...

I will pass on the home perms...and the phone calls..ours were made from a phone box up the road...and the red lips.
But the rest...yes!!

Mandy said...

I remember all of this, except the skate keys! I was born in 1974, so it was about 1980 when I learned to skate. I loved the skating rinks! You’ve brought back some fun memories for me!

Nebnet said...

Thank you for the memories, although not all of yours are also mine. I got a home permanent *once.* It was so bad I burst into tears when I looked in a mirror. I used to see movies at a drive-in long before there was a movie theatre in our area. Drive-ins were fun. Theatres were nice, too; so were their workers. A gaggle of us girls went to a movie together once, and chipped in for what the theatre called a King Kong Bucket of popcorn. :) The girl who carried it tripped and spilled half the popcorn on the floor. The snack bar attendant refilled it with a smile and without charge. Would that happen today, I wonder. I had 45 records, and LPs, too. I had the kind of record player that would play a record to the end (one side only), then drop the next one from a big stack of records I put there. I also had a transistor which I played at least as much as I played records. There were radio contests broadcast from some stations where you had to be the first or third or tenth (or whatever number) caller in order to claim a prize from the radio station. I remember phone calls which went on forever, penpals (mine lived near Boston), giving coloring books and (small packs of) crayons for birthday gifts. I tried ironing my hair, using giant curlers for big curls (didn't work), and painting designs on my blue jeans. I really must stop here because I've gone on far too long. It was fun reading all the memories printed here!

Leigh said...

YES! To all of it. Most of your list gave me a good chuckle and plenty of smiles. Thanks for the memories!

Brenda said...

My pen pal was in France…my love of skating lasted u til the doctor said no more…was in my fifties…my grandsons here in Florida are runners…swim…skateboard…outside so much…I love your blog…when I read this one, I was back in the fifties and sixties…we lived at the rink…keep writing…

Rosalea said...

Everything except the roller skates and rink! Never did that, but in winter, we ice skated constantly. We even built a small rink in the yard, and frequented a neighbour's pond.
I remember helping my mother with a perm kit...don't remember how it turned out. There is a bulk store in the town of our previous residence, where they have 'old fashioned' candy, and I saw those big wax lips there! I had penpals in Australia, Sweden and the U.S. The Swedish girl was sure we all lived in log cabins over here...and now I do live in a log house!!!

coffeeontheporchwithme said...

I remember many of these, Mama Pea. Not only home perms, but home hair streaking kits where you dawned the "cap" and had strands of hair pulled out through the little holes. The roller rink was just the local arena, but you could rent roller skates (sans skate keys). I had a pen pal acquired through a teen heart throb magazine. She was from Tennessee. We just eventually stopped writing to each other but it would be fun to know what happened to her. My parents shopped at the family run grocery store for years. -Jenn

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the memories dear sister, but you didn’t mention that the long phone calls were on a shared “party” line.

Mama Pea said...

gz - I remember the phone "boxes" on corners, too. Now you can't find a pay phone in a town or neighborhood anywhere!

Mandy - The skating rinks were such an upgrade from our clamp-on skates and trying to negotiate the cracked sidewalks in our neighborhood!

Nebnet - Oh, yes, the drive-in movies! Our family spent many summer nights at our local drive-in but I remember only one or two times with a "date." Thanks for sharing all of your other memories.

Leigh - I'm glad I gave you some smiles and may have jogged your memories, too!

Brenda - If your doctor made you stop skating when you were in your fifties, you must have been doing damage to your body! I haven't skated since I fell and cracked my tail bone some 40 years ago. :o(

Rosalea - Yes, ice skating in the winter was a big part of my life. When I was small with my two aunts and then on the same city park rink when I was a teenager. I can almost remember being SO cold but refusing to stop for the day. You were a champion at having pen pals in different countries! How interesting that must have been.

Jenn - My longest lasting pen pal was my best friend who moved away when we were both 15. We corresponded for about five years before we lost touch. I still think of her now and then.

Anonymous (Bro J) - Omigosh! I have absolutely no recollection of our home phone being a party line! Are you sure? If so, your brain cells are still in better shape than mine. Either that or my self-absorbed teenage self has chosen to forget that detail! Hugs.



Anonymous said...

Yes I do remember each one!! I still get perms, but from a salon!!
Patricia (turned 70 in November!!)

Mama Pea said...

Anonymous Patricia - I got perms from a salon for a few years, too, because of my naturally "difficult" hair, but gave that up. I'll admit they turned out MUCH better than the awful home perms my mom used to give me. :o)

Anonymous said...

Thank you - same memories from my childhood. I still carry knee scars from skating, too many falls on the sidewalks. Also ruined a number of pairs of pants, which saved the knees tho mom wasn't happy. Another fond memory - penny candy from the store located across the street from my grade school. Loved your wax lips comparison. Do you remember: candy raisins, Lik-a-Maid straws/packets, watermelon slices, dots-along with a bit of paper, giant licorice and pretzel sticks? A nickel/dime filled a small bag :)

WI-Dee

Mama Pea said...

Anonymous Wl-Dee - Ha, I have a scar on my knee, too, from falling in our driveway! I do remember penny candy . . . dots on a strip of paper, giant licorice and pretzel sticks. Our corner grocer had a box of caramels on the counter that you could pay a penny and take one. You unwrapped it and if it had a white center instead of all caramel, you could choose a candy bar for free. Those candy bars then cost 5 cents, if I remember correctly.

Anonymous M - I'm sure I had my share of baby dolls, but can never remember having one of those "famous fashion dolls!" If they appeared in the late 50s I would have been in high school and over playing with dolls. Ditto with not having a baby doll that wet. My very favorite doll I got for Christmas one year was more the size of an American Girl Doll (but wasn't one) and I played for endless hours with her with my best friend Connie and whatever doll she had. I still have that doll along with many of her clothes. I don't think I gave up playing dolls until I was in 7th grade. (We were different than today's kids, weren't we?)

Brenda said...

I was diagnosed with arthritis early 20’s
Had first of five stroke in 20’s
Snow skied age 40 to 50
Graduated college with degrees in 1994 and 2007…fibromyalgia came along and awful osteoporosis…he told me to keep the walking and lose the accident prone activities…with every step, I am in pain…I walked 1628 miles last year…one step at a time…I a, not sports oriented…just those two…. I did what he said… have co t8jued the walking no matter what…it has kept me going…I have lived longer than ,y relatives…I still teach online occasionally…I help homeschool grand girls…and help boys who are still in elementary…. I really enjoy your blog…

Brenda said...

P S. I was already elderly when I got my last degree…I went to college late.

Michelle said...

The only two I never experienced were skate keys and movie theaters. The skates I had didn't need keys, and while there were certainly movie theaters around, those were places we never frequented. I think of my blog pals as modern-day penpals. And I think my mom continued to give herself perms until her 70s (she's 83 now). Her hair is much different than mine; the last time she gave me a perm (many decades ago; I said never again) she fried it and patches fell out!

DFW said...

Remember everything but the roller skate keys, never had to deal w/that. Everything else is a YES from me!

Mama Pea said...

Brenda - So sorry to hear of all the health issues you've had to deal with. It seems you have a great outlook and are doing everything you can to maintain your health and well-being. Good for you as I know it can't be easy. And congratulations on obtaining your high degrees of education and continuing to give back to society. You go, girl!

Michelle - Now that was one BAD home permanent! Glad you've stayed away from them. ;o) You're younger than I so think you probably avoided the era of skate keys!

DFW - It's interesting how so many of us have had similar experiences growing up. I venture to say it's much different with the kids today. Good or bad? Dunno. ;o)

MaryP said...

I remember them all except for the neighborhood grocer, and that's because I grew up on a farm. I especially remember the home perm. One of Mom's friends was a beautician and offered to give my sister and I home perms. Our hair was completely fried and had to be cut very short to get ride of the damage as much as possible.

Mama Pea said...

MaryP - I find it amazing that the companies that manufactured the home perms weren't put out of business long ago, don't you? I don't know if it was my particular hair texture or what but the perm (and hoped for resulting curl and body) never lasted long for me either. Oh, what we go through for beauty!! ;o)

Agent X, not said...

Hated the perms - salons weren't much better. Our salon was in a ladies basement for many years, Saturday morning cartoons with Fred Flintstone, Yogi Bear, & Popeye. How about time spent adjusting the antenna on "your" new radio to get the big city stations for the latest music, because the local ones signed off @ 10:00... some tv stations too! Thanks for the memories.

Michelle said...

I may be younger than you, Mama Pea, but I could add a couple more items to your "Do You Remember" list that may be even further removed from most people's experience – party line telephones and outhouses!

Mama Pea said...

Agent X - Boy, I really touched a hot spot with the item about home perms! Were any of them any good?? You must be younger than me (most everyone is!) because I don't remember Saturday morning cartoons, but I do remember watching Howdy Doody every afternoon during the week! And I remember having to go up on the roof to occasionally "adjust" our TV antennae up there to get better reception.

Michelle - When we first moved up here to Minnesota in 1973 we had a party line (and one person who always listened in to all the calls) and with no electricity, running water or plumbing, we had an outhouse for many years!

Michelle said...

You beat me, Mama Pea. We had electricity, running water, and plumbing, but used the old outhouses because with only one bathroom for two adults, two adolescents, and then a baby whose poopy cloth diapers were soaked in the toilet before they went in the diaper pail, sometimes needs must!

Brenda said...

Howdy Doody for me too…

Anonymous said...

Mama Pea,
I just remembered something else. When I was a little girl in the 50s, Mom and I wore white gloves to church, even when it was summer!-M

Brenda said...

White gloves yes…added little hats on Easter…I wore hats for years…especially winter…until I moved toFlorida…love them…corsage on Mother’s Day…party line phone lol…I remember that well…remember my first littletransistor radio…turquoise…first princess phone…one bathroom per family…

Mama Pea said...

Brenda - Howdy and all his friends. Buffalo Bob, Clarabell, Chief Thunderthud, Princess Summer-Fall-Winter-Spring, Dilly-Cally, Flubadub. I know there were more but I can't think of them all now. I always got a new hat on Easter, but don't remember wearing gloves. I somehow missed having a transistor radio, never had a princess phone. Oh, the memories!

Michelle - I'm sure that outhouse came in really handy at times! We had one for the first years up here in Minnesota. My husband didn't want it in view of our living quarters so I often complained you had to pack a lunch to walk all the way there and back.

Anonymous M - Another person who wore those white gloves! Guess I missed out on being truly dressed to the nines!! ;o)

sheepmom said...

We must be from the same decade. All of those memories are the same as mine.
Wish the kids of today would have to work harder at communicating.

Mama Pea said...

sheepmom - I so agree with your mention of kids communicating. There have been studies done that indicate children today are actually losing the ability to communicate face to face with one another. And even adults now have few to no friends that they actually talk with. So sad. I do believe we all had better human relation skills before technology so rapidly has taken over our lives.

JustGail said...

I remember all but the skate keys. I did have clamp ons, but I think they adjusted with a wrench and then buckled on. And roller rinks - I got to go rarely and remember being SO envious of the girls that got to go every week and had huge clumps of pom-poms on their very own skates.
I haven't had a perm in 40 years, but still recall the dry brittle hair afterward, and the chemical burn. The last perm I ever got, out of my mouth comes "smells just like the litter box after our cat pees" (his hormones had just kicked in). I'm not sure who laughed harder - me from embarrassment on saying that or the stylist because she knew it was true.
And not only was there 1 phone in the entire house, it was a party line. No not party as in fun and games, but as in multiple households on the same line with their own ring.